Hi could you make this post private please, I’m so stressed out because my part…
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Hi could you make this post private please,
I’m so stressed out because my partner (we don’t live together btw) always keeps taking money off me. I’m on benefits and get money for me and my daughter. It’s enough money to keep us going but he knows when I get paid and always demands money off me & when I say no he says that I have to because when I was pregnant I demanded he buy an expensive cot a buggy for our daughter. I feel so ashamed to ask my mum for help because I just know what she’s gonna say, I’m 19 and he’s 37 and doesn’t work out daughter is almost 6months. Sometimes I go days without food and when I tell him he says that he’s going to give the money back to me never does. I always make sure I buy what I need for my daughter first before anything and that doesn’t even leave much for myself. 😩😩😩😩 I don’t even know what to do, please can I have some advice and no bashing please !!
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Read this back and pretend that your daughter wrote this about her fella. What would you say to her?
Abuse isn’t always physical. Financial abuse is one of the main forms of abuse.
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I know this might be hard to hear, but if you are not eating YOU ARE NOT giving your child everything she needs. Your child needs you to be fed and healthy. He sounds like a piece of work, I wouldn’t give him another penny xx
Sorry to be blunt but you need to stand up to him and stop being a doormat. He is an adult tell him to look after himself. If you can’t do it for yourself you need to for your child. I understand you are young but this man is using you for money and you are allowing him to. Part of being an adult is taking responsibility for your own actions. You are facilitating his behaviour. Tell him to step up and grow up! (Although if he hasn’t by the age 37 he probably never will) or keep supporting him or leave him. It really is your choice. Sorry if I sound harsh. But you are a parent and your child’s needs come first and a unhappy and hungry mummy is not putting your child first. X
I wouldnt care less if you had expensive stiff for your/ hid daughter what an idiot!!!! I’m due you would have got the maternity grant to pay for some of the bits anyway!!!
Stand your ground and say no, why should you go to anyone for help when it should be him giving you money for your daughter.
Don’t let him treat you like a door mat
you need to tell him no hun stand up for yourself and your daughter youre not obliged to hand over yours and your daughters money tell the lazy cunt to go and get a job and provide for his child rather than sponging off his childs mother he sounds like a bully. tell him youre not his personal cashpoint and to go get his own money he cant hold it over you that he brought a cot and buggy for the child you both created
It sounds like u already know what u have to do love. We can say leave him n he’s no good etc but in the end it is u who has to make the decision n live w. It. Do u want to keep going hungry n be w. A man who clearly has no respect for u n does not care for your well being or your daughters or do u want to make a change? It’s up to YOU.
Dont give him any money at all ever again, if he asks why?, say because ur not going days without being able to eat, u need the money for u and ur daughter and how he never pays u back, tell him if he wants money he’ll have to get a job and if he plays the whole ‘u made me buy this and that’ say ‘well damn fucking well i did, shes ur daughter too! U should be buying things for her so dont try and turn this around on me!’.. dont fall for any guilt trips or him going mental at u or anything, stand ur ground and give him tough love 🙂
I’m sorry but he’s financially abusing you blackmailing you he’s a disgusting man letting you go with food for days so he’s living it up elsewhere get rid now go to the police if need be but put you and your baby first it’s his problem if his own money ain’t lasting him he’s disgusting doing this to you stand up to him please or he’s only going to get worse dump the low life
You know yourself that what he is doing is wrong ! You shouldn’t stay with someone like this. It is NOT love. You would be much better off without him. Don’t feel ashamed to speak to your Mum, as she IS your Mum and shouldn’t be judging you ! Hope everything works out for you xx
Iv been here Hun first of all get rid second he brought cot and buggy for his child to never let him hold that over you x
Sack the loser off n take care of you n your little lady love. You dont want her growing up thinking this is normal. And tell your mum, i told you so is better than the alternative xx
what an arsehole he should be providing for his family not taking money from you if u cant stand up to him go and speak to someone who could help you you dont need that in yours and your daughters life x
Urm kick the asshole to the curb, it’s your money not his? He doesn’t love you if he’s willing to let you starve and he can’t be asked to get off his ass to work!! What a selfish prick
Quite simply get rid of the loser! He is clearly not bothered about you or your child. End it and cal the police if he turns up . X
Erm it’s his child too so he should be spending money on her. Tell him to sit on your middle finger and swivel. That money you get is not for him, it’s for you and your daughter to live. If he moans, he moans, he shouldn’t be spending his daughters money on himself. Hope you get it sorted soon hun xxx
Your health is more important than keeping him happy. Don’t give him a penny, look after yourself and your child, what man would actual watch his girlfriend starve? Not one that loves you. Put your foot down and say no or he’ll keep walking over you. Get food in and with whatever you have left have a day out with your daughter, you don’t want your daughter growing up thinking this acceptable 🙂 look after yourself she needs a mummy x
Punch him in the knob and tell him to fuck off and when he gets there fuck off some more. Stand up for yourself and tell the waster to find someone else to sponge off. You are far better off without the douche. Don’t let him take advantage, teach your daughter that no man no matter who he is has the right to treat a woman like that.
Tell your mum! Then go and stay with her! What are you a baby sitter to this grown ass lazy bastard! Or just don’t let him in your house! Don’t let him take control! Imagine your daughter was in your position..
At the end of the day, he bought those items for his daughter. So really, he can’t just demand money for that reason. I’d definitely get rid, sounds like a waste of space to me 👌🏻 Being a single mum ain’t a bad thing love, as long as you’ve got your family around to support you, you don’t need no man like that in your life! Just focus on you and your daughter!💕
This is financial abuse. Change the account the money is paid into and don’t have cash on you. Also,stop calling him your partner – he needs to become an ex,quick smart. Honestly,I’d be calling the police because it sounds like he’s mugging you,it’s basically theft. He can’t hold against you the cost of the pram because he should be providing for your child. Disgusting excuse of a man,please get help from family to keep you safe from this thug
This is abuse! You need to speak to your mum. She’ll support you to get rid of him! Kick him to the curb your worth so much more than that piece of shit 💜
Tell him tough shit and get his own money yours is for your daughter and you
Sorry to be nasty but tell him bollocks he shoukd be giving you money refuse to give him amy and tell him he needs to give you some of he doesn’t tell to fook off
Tell him to bolt and grow a set of balls . He’s not a man , just a pathetic parasite .
She shouldn’t be taking money from you dose he work tell him to get a job xx