Hi, sorry could I have a pp please. Sorry for long post I have a 3 year old chi…
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Hi, sorry could I have a pp please. Sorry for long post
I have a 3 year old child and myself and childs father are not together. Childs father smokes weed and does god knows what other drugs since we finished (as he admitted to me doing cocaine) and also is in a lot of debt (last time we were in touch just over 3 weeks ago he told me he was gonna get shot). Anyways we did up an agreement and signed it (this being the 2nd agreement as he doesnt stick to them). We agreed on supervised visits for first 3 months with me being there as I am afraid to let him have our child on his own incase something happens as he owes out so much money. He was showing up stoned with a joint in his mouth and always walking away to answer his phone or sitting there on his phone (mind you he was only seeing his child twice a week for 2hours each to start off with). He also wasnt paying anything now I dont care if he doesn’t pay as I have being doing it on my own even when we were together but what annoyed me was he would sit there talking to me about how much he owes out and that he is trying to sort money to pay his bills. Would never mention about giving anything for his child. I honestly wouldnt care about him paying for his child if I knew the money wasnt going of drug bills but it is like. Anyways he has been calling and texting every few days asking how his child is and I havnt gotten back to him as I have told him to go to court as he cannot stick to the agreement we did ourselves. He thinks that by texting every few days asking how his child is that he is a good dad. It was always me trying to arrange for him to spend time with our child and he would never suggest it. But I feel so terrible and guilty for our child as our child loves their father but im sick of him walking all over me when it comes to our child because he knows I would do anything for our child. I dont know what im looking for out of this really like do I give him one more chance before it goes to court(even though he would never be able to afford court) or do I stick to my guns. I think I more feel guilty as I know he cant afford court and I dont want my child to miss out on a father. Please no bashing as I love my child and would do anything for my child
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I had similar problens and stil live with the guilt as i stopped the dad seeing the kids as he was a liability and couldn’t guarantee children’s safety which is paramount and comes first thoufh it was hard and had little support and it was hard. Anyway we got by and years later he took me to court and after a lengthy battle he was allowed access to his kids one night a week supervised visits firsr. Obviously in that time kids grew older and are able speak and think independently for themselves. Now im comfortable letting them go as 1) he fought to see the kids and 2) kids are rhat much older and would say if there were issues. He needs to realise kids safety comes first. You need to do all you can to protect the kids and if theres any doubt for their safety dont do it as you will not be able to time back. Its called tough love.