I know I’m not a mum but I really wanted to give my private advice to this post …

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I know I’m not a mum but I really wanted to give my private advice to this post “Hi can I have a PPP. Last night my 14 year old daughter admitted she was pregnant. I noticed the signs, sickness, Massive increase in appetite & asking for weird things, being very clingy, she normally spends all her time on social media to her friends in her room but this past 3 weeks she’s been with me watching movies every chance she gets. I’ve had a feeling for a while but tbh I’ve buried my head in the sand for a few weeks as I couldn’t face the thought of my baby girl having sex let alone being pregnant. She has been with her BF for 1 1/2 years & before you start bashing, I have always brought her up being very open & honest. She knows all about contraception STI etc. I cannot believe this has happened. She is a very caring girl & I know having an abortion will haunt her for the rest of her life. The BF has told her to get rid or he will dump her, he’s only 14 himself so is naturally terrified too. I didn’t get angry but told her I was devastated for her, that her life as she knows it will be over if she keeps the baby. She has been to a 1-1 clinic & they told her she would have to tell me, she was scared to but said she was relieved when I brought it up. I have told her I will support her whatever she decides. I myself could never have an abortion but I’m pro choice. I’ve watched my friend have one & she regrets it, she is haunted by the fact she killed her baby. I don’t think my daughter will have an abortion, she has such a strong caring nature, she will feel like it’s “murder”. I’m in shock & I’ve been up all night crying. I guess I’m looking for advice from mums that have been here, what did you do? Did your daughter have the baby? I told her last night that I love her unconditionally & nothing could make me hate her (she asked if I hated her now) I told her I’m disappointed but that what’s done is done. We have to look forward now & decide what she wants to do. I feel like a complete failure, I never thought I would be typing anything like this so please if you’re going to Jude me I can assure you nothing you say can make me feel like more of a failure as a percent. I’m a single mother who works her ass off to provide for her but now my world has just been turned upside down. What do I do now?” I have been the “BF” in a similar situation, I also was 14 and so was the mother, we both wanted to keep the child but her parents forced her into an abortion ( threatening to kick her out and disown her etc) in the end she did have the abortion and she hated her parents for quite some time, it also haunted her for the rest of our relationship (can’t say if it still does as we are no longer together) looking back at it now it was the best decision for us at the time especially now as we are no longer together, but let her make the choice for herself I know it’s easier said than done but if she doesn’t get to make her own choice she’ll most like never forgive you
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