I need private advice please not baby related for a friend. Her fiancée has agai…
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I need private advice please not baby related for a friend. Her fiancée has again kicked/ punched her around the room tonight. The same as last night and 2 weeks ago. And many other times. She is covered in bruises. She looks awful and has lost 2 and half stone already in less than a month. It’s becoming more noticeable now. She has only been with him less than a year. She has lost 7 stone since meeting him. And disowned by all friends really and her family. He has been arrested 4 times on suspicion of domestic violence but she lies to the police and just says she is a nutter and makes it up. He has been in prison before for killing a man and beating 2 previous wives up. She is adamant she can help him when he crys & apologises etc. She absolutely adores him and forgives him anything all the time. He has issues also that effect him. She wants to help him solve everything. How can we help her see the truth? Can he be fixed? who do we contact to help her? She has 2 friends left in the world and we are both worried but no idea what to do to help her. We spoke to local gp who said that they can’t help unless she asks for it. He has had her registered disabled for her mental health, all of a sudden at 45 she has developed skitophrenia and he takes carers allowance but also works part time. We need to help our friend but obviously can’t phone police as they think she is a nutter. What else can we do.
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There’s nothing you can do it sounds similar to several people I know they just can’t see wrong in people even when their fists are hitting them or their pictures of their partners cheating etc they just won’t accept it and will make excuses mostly for themselves than anyone else and you can’t help them unless they ask for help x
Having been there myself in a dv relationship there isn’t much u can do right now to help her unless she’s ready to help herself x I work for a domestic abuse service now , maybe worth giving her her local number for when she’s ready to seek help x as difficult as this is right now all u can be is continue to support her x there will be a point where she realises she’s had enough and will need u more than ever x X
Get in touch with your local women’s aid. But unfortunately you can’t force her, but sounds like this situation could become very dangerous! Wish you all the best x
I know you really want to help her but all you can do is be there for her. I’ve been in the same situation and no matter what friends or family said I stayed with him. There will come a day when she realises he’s a c u next tuesday and she will walk away in the mean time just make sure she knows no matter what happens you are there for her. Feel free to pm me. I really hope your friend realises how much better off she will be without him soon. Xxxx
I thought police takes it serice Bec they are cracking down on domestic abuse he never change. She needs to get shot him. X
If she doesn’t want help it’s up to her ..mabey open her eyes one day x
Wouldn’t the evidence of her bruises etc be enough? X