I would like some advice perhaps from other parents who have had to tackle a sim…

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I would like some advice perhaps from other parents who have had to tackle a similar issue…..
I have been separated from my children’s father for around 7 years. He lives over an hour away. We have a son aged 10 and a daughter 8. They have always gone to see their father every other weekend, ex mother in law has always collected the children and brought them home. (On the odd occasion he will drop off, he has always paid maintenance so can’t fault him for that support)
The relationship has always been a rocky lately it has been more amicable until now. My son has got involved with a football club and is enjoying playing matches every Sunday. At first their dad seemed willing to bring him along to the games on a Sunday morning, but after around 3 games which he has had to bring him along too, their father has now said that if our son wants to continue playing football on a Sunday morning due to work commitments he won’t be bringing him back. That his mum will just collect our daughter and leave our son. He thinks our son should learn he has to miss games as he can’t ‘have his own way’. I think this is completely ridiculous when a child is new into a hobby surely a parent should encourage his child. My time is dedicated to my children with after school activities (football training & dancing), breakfast & after school club and working full time.
I suggested to him possibly having them over night Friday & bringing them back Saturday evening but was told I am dictating to him as what he should do on his weekend. When the children do go they seem to spend more time with his partner as he works all weekend too(this happened with his previous partner & now his new partner seems to be taking this role on too).And despite her being a lovely lady, they visit him to spend time with him.
I could volunteer to collect my son every football game but that would be a 2 hours trip every weekend he goes, for them to then bring back our daughter on the Sunday morning. I fully respect their father having to work but I think hes being unreasonable and not fair on our son.
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