I’m 17 years old and I’ve been with my boyfriend a few months now (he’s 19)but I…
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I’m 17 years old and I’ve been with my boyfriend a few months now (he’s 19)but I’ve known him for over five years and previously dated him when I was 13/14. Long story short, we’ve had unprotected sex three times spanning over a week. The first time was a day after my period stopped and then the day after also. Both times were not supposed to happen but we ended up doing it anyway, very irresponsibly. I went to the sexual health clinic the day after the second time we had unprotected sex which was 2 days after my period stopped and I took the morning after pill but as women in my family are very fertile and I had just come off my period the nurse said there is a high risk of me being pregnant and to take a pregnancy test in 3 weeks. I work in a gp surgery as a business admin/receptionist and I love my job and the thought of being pregnant terrifies me. It’s my own fault, I know that, so please no bashing. Other than the fact that I’m quite young (I’d be 18 by the time I give birth if I am), my boyfriend may be going to prison due to something that happened 2 years ago (I’ve already told him how immature he is so please no bashing) and since then he has matured a lot but the thing is his sentencing is on 20th July so by the time I take the pregnancy test, he may not be here to see the result. I’m just looking for advice as my mum passed away this Feb and I always used to turn to her for advice and I’m just too nervous to speak to my sisters about this. I always usually use condoms but I stupidly didn’t those three occasions. I just don’t know what I’ll do if I am pregnant. How will I be able to provide for my child if his/her dad is in prison and I can’t work? I’ve never wanted to be a mother this early on in my life, especially while I am not married but I have always wanted to be a mother and a lot of people say how I’m a very maternal person (I’ve worked in nurseries, I’m an auntie 9 times and I frequently watch my nieces/nephews for weekends at a time) and I know it isn’t the same as you can hand the children back to the parents but I don’t know what to do. I’ve never agreed with abortions being used as a contraceptive and if I have one I feel as though that is what I’d be doing as it wasn’t a one time mistake. I don’t think I’d be able to cope with the thought of me getting rid of something that shares my DNA. I’m just looking on advice as to whether the nurse was right and there is a high risk of being pregnant and what to do basically as I have nowhere to turn. My family would be 100% supportive so I’m not worried about that, it’s the thought of baby’s dad not being there as I never wanted that life for my child.
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