Just looking for a bit of advice, my daughter has a friend who she has been frie…

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Just looking for a bit of advice, my daughter has a friend who she has been friends with a long time and through that, me and her friends mum have become friends. My daughters friend lives with her mum and dad. But the daughter seems petrified about spending time with her dad. Ive known the family for well over 5 years. The daughter and her mum sleep in the same bed (shes nearly a teenager) and I know the mum and husband arent in a sexual relationship. None of that is my business but my problem is that my daughter gets invited round to her friends house (on rare occasions) and I am now at the point in which I dont want to let her go because of her friends dad. I know the dad has mental issues because f the way he acts. He just stands there grunting and not saying a word, I know that hes a extreme racist, he says hes part of the skinhead group, (I have multinational relatives), anyone who is gay or just anyone who is not the same as him (personally I think people like him are the scum of the earth) and has an issue with anyone who is not straight white british, as he has said a few things while both me and my daughter have been in his presence such as ‘they all need to die’ or ‘Im going to explode’. My daughters friend stays at mine on a regular basis if her mum is doing something as she doesnt like staying with her dad. I have never seen a child so scared of a parent. Ive tried talking to the my daughters friend and said she can come to me if she needs to talk but I think she told her mum that I was questioning her as the next time she said things with her dad are ‘great’. My issue is that firstly I do not want my child exposed to such hate from anyone person, in our family, everyone is equal, but tbh I know she wouldnt listen to crap like that, but I dont want to upset my friend by saying that I dont trust my daughter to go out with that family, even though I dont. I feel sad my for daughters friend, shes always at my house and never wants to go home. Her mum is a good mum but then I question what mother could put their child in a situation were a person was unstable (the dad has threatened to kill both the daughter and mum before). Shes a strong women so isnt like its any kind of domestic abuse, she rules the house, I feel sorry for the mum but I know she uses the dad as a guilt to make me look after her daughter all the time. Do I just tell the mother and break the friendship of our daughters?I really do think that one day he will hurt someone……
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