My baby is 11 weeks old and im just wondering is it normal for my own mother to …
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My baby is 11 weeks old and im just wondering is it normal for my own mother to seam reluctent to watch my baby for me? Shes had him a few times but called me twice now asking me to get baby because they have been paticulally whingy that day but she seams fine when im there will cuddle etc she doesnt seam to like being in charge of him though? Ive got a concert booked sunday night and ive asked her to watch them for me over night at her house baring in mind they are brilliant on a night but she made all kinds of excuses before saying she will. I mean its not as if she should feel pressured i just thought it would be nice for her to have the bonding time. My parthers parents will have him gladly infact they always ask if they can see him! Just my mum doesnt seam that bothered about him. She was there at the birth she saw him come into the world ive never ever told her what she can and cant do ive always said do it your own way. I just dont feel shes fully bonding with him. Did anyone else ever have this and did it change as they got older? Is it even normal x
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I mean this in the nicest way possible as I know mummy’s need a break but he’s 11 weeks old. By reading the comments it sounds like she has him often or your in laws do maybe she’s starting to find it a burden rather than enjoyment.
At 11 weeks old u should of only had a sitter on e or twice in my opinion. I didn’t leave mine till was 6mon the and the other 9months with anyone x
At 11 weeks old babies can still be quite difficult with settling, sleeping etc.. Maybe she doesn’t want to be responsible for a baby so young which she is well within her rights to feel that way.. Stop trying to force her. If shes made excuses regarding your concert then just leave it and ask your partners mum and dad instead x
I must be really lucky, my mum is amazing with my 2 girls and loves having them and treats them as her own and same with my niece. They have an amazing bond with her and they are grandma mad it’s a shame not everyone is as lucky. I hope to be thee same with my grandchildren x
Maybe she is reluctant because she has already raised her own or even maybe because it is huge responsibility to have such a small person in your care for long periods of time?
I think you mum probably doesn’t feel comfortable having your baby as your baby is still so small it’s a huge responsibility having a tiny baby over night that is not your own. X
Your baby is still only tiny at 11 weeks old maybe your mum thonks baby is to young to be in her care i didnt leave my children till they were at least 8 months old
Your mums done her part raising you and your siblings (if you have any) and your baby is only 11 weeks old so I don’t see why you’d want to be away from your child so much tbh.
My mums never had my child and my dad’s only looked after him once and my sons 11 months, in my opinion they’re your kids so your responsibility.. if that means not having “free time” well that was your choice x
My mum will babysit but won’t do overnights at all until babies at least a year , she’s been the same with my other 2 , she thinks she’s “out the way of it now” when it comes to feeding and things but to be fair she’s brilliant with my older 2 , would have every minute of every day if I let her lol it might change as she gets older , it may just be a nerve thing with the 11 week old , I know it’s nerves when it comes to my mum and new babies. X
My parents haven’t even seen 4 of my 5 children just over FaceTime no matter how many times I invited them over ( they are in Germany)
She may not want to as she may not feel like she should I mean to be fair baby is only 11 weeks
I think that you’re asking a bit much from her.