Need a bit of advice pleasebut it’s a long one. on Friday I found out my boyfrie…

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Need a bit of advice pleasebut it’s a long one.
on Friday I found out my boyfriend of 8 months has a child he didn’t tell me about. He has 3 children he sees every weekend.. the youngest not his but he’s brought her up so still sees her. His kids are great kids and they stay over at my house now and then. So anyway.. I found out he has a daughter he doesn’t see and hasn’t seen since she was a baby. When we spoke about it he said the girl cheated with his cousin but he was never sure that this kid was his, but he pays csa so this is obviously a cop out. He didn’t tell me because he knows how I feel about men who abandon their kids as my daughters dad doesn’t wanna know her and hasn’t since the moment I found out I was pregnant.. he saw her when he could be bothered for 4 months then stopped. So I’ve said loads of times that I have no respect for men like my ex. I do know for a fact he was in a bad way when this child was born (same year as his son) he was sectioned that year as he suffered with bad depression and tried to take his life,he says he slept about because he wanted to feel loved with I totally get. I just can’t get passed him not telling me.. at first I told him it was over but then we talked and sorted it out but I’m not sure I can get past it. Because I’ve brought it to the front of his head he has had a look at the child’s mums Facebook page and my god he couldn’t deny her if he wanted to. He’s messaged the mum to say he knows he has no rights after all this time but he would like to get to know her, if not then that’s fine as he does wanna upset her life. So today she has messaged back to say the child knows about him and she will ask her what she wants to do. Now I know this is a good thing and it would be amazing if he could make up for lost time with his daughter and develop a bond but I hate that he has 4 different ex’s he has to deal with regarding his children. I hate it.
I feel like I’m being ridiculous but I feel jealous.. cos this is another ex he has to deal with.. another child he has to make time for when he works away all week and me and his kids see him at weekends. I feel like that’s me just gone another number down on his list.. god I feel so childish even saying this. What do I do.. just ride it out and see how it goes? I can’t condemn the man for trying to make amends.. of corse I want that little girl to see her daddy too but it’s all just so much and I don’t know what to do. Xx
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