PPP. Ladies I need your opinions please. I’ve been with my partner 2.5years …
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PPP.
Ladies I need your opinions please.
I’ve been with my partner 2.5years now and have a 1year together. When we met he was still married but separated.
He kept saying he’d get divorced when he got the money. On a few occasions he has had the money to do this but has spent it on other things such as a second hand car. I let this go, and thought I’ll give him some more time. He came into money YET again… no divorce.
So here’s the thing, he’s on better money now (job wise)and is able to save and put money aside, so we had a conversation last night and I wasn’t going to bring up the divorce and all I said was ‘what will you be saving for’… his reply was, ‘I know what YOU want me to save it for’….. it’s like he can’t be arsed.
How can we have a future together if he keeps saying he doesn’t want to waste money on paper (divorce)…
I wanted a wedding and one more child and after our baby was born he spoke about getting the snip (to me, this means he doesn’t want any more, doesn’t it)
And in our argument last night he said I never said I didn’t want anymore…. to me the SNIP means you don’t want any…
Sorry for rant but I’m feeling stuck and unhappy.
What do you ladies make of all this, what would you do and how would you feel?? Xxx
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Can you rely to Damo, I don’t want to get married for years, but how can we move forward at All.
I live in his marital house with him, so he wouldn’t miss out seeing his baby grow up. I left my friends and family to relocate for him. Surely he could just get a divorce….
I think you sound like a bit of a pushy cow to be fair, getting a divorce is tough on someone no matter what you feel about the other person personally it’s hard and it’s a long process maybe he can’t be arsed and wants to focus on what he’s got now instead of the past. As for the snip maybe he said it as an off the cuff well I will get it one day saying that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want another kid. It sounds to me like you are jealous of him still being married and want everything done your way. Give the guy some time.
Think maybe back off abit its his choice. The more you go on at him more likely he wont do it. Let him do it in his own time when his good and ready too. Just be more supportive on his choices. Sorry to sound harsh but I hate if someone was keeping on at me. Just focus on what you have now. X
U are ready for something he has already had keep it movin and dont look back bc he just isnt in the same place as you and divorced or not he hasnt proposed either. Common sense
Im seperated not divorced as yet.its a lengthy process and tbf ive not rushed to do it. Im lookin to move on am honest about it. I think is just thd right timing maybe not keep on
Me and my Ex are still married, we separated 7 years ago and I have three children with another man, just never wanted to waste the money on divorce
I’d nearly put money on it that he’s holding out on getting the divorce cause as soon as it’s through your going to be wanting to get married asap and he probably doesn’t want to yet. If it was me I wouldn’t want to see a wedding dress for years!
I think you need to take a step back he maybe waiting for it to be easier for eg if you are separated for over three years the process is much simpler as you can say there is irreconcilable differences, therefore it goes through quicker and costs less. Plus he will have to give so much of the house to his ex etc so let him get on his feet financially as men see and do things very practically to women. Once the pressure is off and it’s not the main focus in your relationship everything will fall into place as it should. Stay positive and go with the flow you may even get that next baby and more security emotionally from him x
His name isn’t Jason Lewis by any chance 😂 Sounds like my ex! 🤦🏻♀️