Private post please… I’ve read a lot lately on her mother’s needing advice be…

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Private post please…
I’ve read a lot lately on her mother’s needing advice beeing made to choose between children and they partner and a lot of people replying with children first dump your partner…. bla bla bla … so I thought i would share my story with you….
Back 8 months ago I came to this page looking for advice not knowing were else to turn it was a mother of 2 a 12 year old girl to an ex partner and a 2 yer old to my current partner …. my daughter and I was alone for 6 years I was a single mother doing the best I could I met my partner and dated for 10 months before I introduced him to her and when they did meet they got on brilliantly everything was perfect we moov in together and have a baby she is a fantastic big sister but was very jealous of the baby .. my partner treated her like is own but the older she got the more disrespectful she became to him he would tell her off she would answer back he would moan at me for her attitude she would moan he was not her father why did she have to listen to him in was at my wits end . One weekend she decided she no longer want to live here and contacted her father so she could live with him she ran away…I was devastated I begged her home but she still would come back she had school on the Monday and decided to stay at my parents . I had meany one to one chats with her and she would not come home while I was living with my partner all I done was cry this went on for 6 weeks. She said she didn’t like him any more and was not awilling to live with him. My parents were telling me I had to put her first but I knew that and by doing so I was potentially making my self a single parent again. Me and my partner spent meany of nights having argument after argument as this was a massive dicision for me I just couldn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel… to make matters worse I discovered that I was around 8 weeks pregnant … so know what do I do I have a 12 year old that heated me for not choosing her over my partner baby with a man I loved and another on the way…. meany of you said I should leave him bring kids up on my own in had some very lovely comments back and some really nasty ones I was absolutely broken. I tried to reason with my daughter ask her why she no longer liked him and all she kept saying was she only wanted me and for thing to be the way it was before I met him . So the only way to resolve this was in had to ask my partner to moov out and potentially become a single mother cos I needed my daughter home so badly. My partner left and she moved home but I had to explain to her that he was always going to be around as he had the right to be involved in his sons life .. every time he came around she would stay up stairs it was so different but after 12 weeks and her realising that although he didn’t live with us he was still around she quickly changed her attitude. We now all live together again and have a new health baby boy who is 6 weeks old. And his and her relationship is now at its best..
I’m basically saying don’t give up to easy there is a light at the end of the tunnel just everyone’s tunnel is longer than others ….xx
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