Private post please. So my fiancé of 12 years left me for another girl he met …
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So my fiancé of 12 years left me for another girl he met on a stag. He’s looking for our 3 kids 2 meet her after 8weeks and wanted them 2 leave the country 2 go stay in her house for week. One of the kids is 7 one is 2 the other is 7 months. He is on the birth certificate. We’re do I stand? I think it’s far 2 soon.
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He has been violent in the past and is known 2 have a temper my 7 year old has said he is scared of him. The girl he is with has no kids but they are apparently gonna move here and rent somewhere. I told him if I met a man I wudnt introduce for at least 6months because my kids have never had another man or woman in ther life’s.
Not after 8 weeks and especially not abroad🙈
If it were me in this situation I would be going through court to arrange a residency order before allowing them to go abroad with him as if he is on bc he can keep them over there for 28 days and even then I’m sure it would be very difficult to remove them and would take a long time so I’d be making the legal route an option and only allowing access in the country you live in x
When you say out of the country, do you mean the UK? He would b be allowed to take the kids anywhere in the UK. He can’t take them out of the UK without your written concent. To me, 8 weeks is too early to be introducing kids to new partners but he’s on their birth certificates and that’s his right as a parent x
Defo dont let them go to a diff country. Ild never let me 7 month old or 2 yr old go. 7 yr old maybe after a while as she older n can ask to call n speak to u but no my heart would not be at ease at all. If kids mean so much hell spend time with them in your area for as am concern.
Wow okay if u agree for them to meet her that’s your choice but I wouldn’t b letting them leave the country to stay at hers but that’s just me lol how do u feel about it your their mum I’m sure you will make the right choice for them x
He has as many rights as you do, he can take them out of the country for upto 4 weeks I think. Same as you could take them.
It’s his choice how soon they meet her . Although I agree it’s too soon it’s not your choice to make its his. Same as when you find someone new it’ll be your choice how long you wait.
I really wouldn’t feel comfortable with this situation… is there no way she can stay over here for a week instead to meet them? You would be an anxious mess for the duration if they went abroad…. and this isn’t about spite because of who she is.. any mother would freak out at the prospect… I would calmly explain that you are not happy with this so soon but you can all work towards them going as an end goal when trust and patience has been well established … your not banning them from meeting her she will have to come over here for the first few visits… good luck on what ever you decide x
If you’re now the children’s primary carer, your absolutely able to say the Children cannot go abroad. He’d need your permission. Far too soon also. Xx
If me and my OH split,there is no way on earth our son would be introduced to his new bit after just 8 weeks and I’d have no issue telling him that
Surely you need both parents permission to take the children out of the country?
I think your find,that’s it’s joint parental responsibility you both have,so you can stop him taking the kids abroad and he could stop you. Xx
Legally he can take them for 38 days as he is in the birth certificate. He only needs permission if you have a child arrangements order declaring the children live with you. See a solicitor as soon as possible.
He can’t take them out of the country without your permission, if you don’t give it they can’t go! It’s far too soon
Not sure where you stand legally but it’s defo way to soon. Maybe after 6months or so
If any of the breastfed ? And speak to a family solicitor they should help
He can’t take the kids for more than a month without ur permission I’ve been there an dealt with it
Your the main parent they live with you! So you will find that it’s down to you if your agree to it
Morally I agree with you, legally you can’t stop him
This must be a wind up!