Private post please? okay, here goes nothing… sorry it’s a long one. I’m looki…

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Private post please?
okay, here goes nothing… sorry it’s a long one.
I’m looking for advice about going to mediation with my daughters dad. Here’s some history…
We split when she was around 5 months old and she is now 3.
Since then I have a new partner, a one year old and moved an hour and a half away from where we used to live and where her dad still lives. We have had our ups and downs when it comes to co- parenting our daughter, she goes to her dad’s Friday night through till Sunday evening (this has changed when I went back to work as it was Saturday mornings until Sunday evening because he didn’t want to keep the friday) and i would have her Sunday evening til friday night with a weekend a month and it seemed to be going fine until about a month ago.
Here is the problem…
My daughter will be going to nursery in September and I have asked for the time to be split to her going to her dad’s every other weekend and make up the time in school holidays by having her a few extra days in the week because she will be doing monday- friday (which is the time i have her) but he doesn’t like the sound of this as I’m having her more as I get to have her in the week whilst she’s at nursery and a weekend but I see it as I won’t be able to do any days out with her like I do now and my family who still live an hour and a half away will not see her either.
We have been arguing over this for weeks and I feel like we cannot come to an agreement!
Mediation seems like the only option.
Has anyone ever been through something similar? I’m looking at costs? If we will get an outcome? will we have to go to court? Am i just being a cow for taking time off him? I never wanted it to come to this but I can’t see a way around it! 😞
Also may I add that he isn’t a bad dad, he has made mistakes like any parent and he was okay for this to happen too as when we broke up we discussed that access will change when she goes to school but since he spoke to his partner they think that he should have 50/50 and that my daughter should go to her nursery half the week to make it fair. i know that this is more his partner than him because since he has been in a relationship with her, she has messaged me countless times about having my daughter extra time so she can do things with her which is lovely but i would like to have time with my daughter. My argument with that is she goes to her dad’s to see her dad, not go to be looked after by his partner as he works in the week until 5 and doesn’t get home till 6, my daughter goes to bed at 7.
Hope this makes sense and advice would much be appreciated.
Thanks 😊
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