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Can i have a ppp? Does anyones boyfriends make them feel bad for not having sex with them? Im with mine a year. This has happened a couple of times. We have a pretty active sex life. On a rare occasion i myt be too tired from work like last nyt. He kept stickin hes fingers up my ass i kept tellin him stop and he wouldnt so i started screamin for him to stop and he wudnt eventually he did and he wudnt speak to me. I told him how it made me feel and a while later i tried to kiss him and he completley pushed me away. Woke up this morning tried him again and he rejected me. On the way to work he again said for the 1000th time he feels im not attracted to him(i dnt understand how we have so much sex normally) and he doesnt no if he can be with someone like me and be in a sexless relationship. I reminded him it was one nyt we were both tired from work and he says he does so much for me and he feels like he gets shit for thanks. The last couple of weeks anytime hes in a bad mood he breaks up with me. And its me apoligisen even duh half the time iv done noting wrong just for peace and i dont wana loose him. Now hes saying he doesnt want to be in a relationship anymore he needs to be single. I am completley heartbroken. What will i do? I cant live with out him. I have noting or no1 only him. I have no friends atall. And he nos this. Ill honestly set back to depression again and i no i will. My hearts saying fight for him but my heada sayin leave
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  • Could u reply to my post please. He asked me last nyt could he record us having sex i said no. Again he said im clearly not attracted to him that this is something all couples do and asked me why i wudnt keave him record us i said because i dont want no1 having a video of me like that he said its only for hes eyes i said i dont care anyone can hack a phone. He also asks me for pictures of myself and when i say no he does all this again . Threatens to leave

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  • Could u reply please. Anytime i try talk to him about it he tells me im doing nothin but playin the victim. He baut me a dress last nyt and i said thanks gave him a hug and kiss and apparently im not greatfull

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  • Wtf is wrong with some people he kept sticking his fingers up your bum who does he think he is!! It’s like he tries to emotionally blackmail you over sex. What a keeper. Maybe say if u can’t be in a supposedly sex less relationship then jog on I’m sure he will soon change his tune!! What a tool!!

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  • so he assulted you and carried on when you’re yelling no and you still want to be with him? no means no matter how long you have been together. he is emotionally blackmailing you into doing something you don’t want to do bin him off asap you need a guy who will respect you

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  • My husband never makes me feel guilty or vice versa. We talk like adults if something needs attention and work on it. He’s abusing you mentally and emotionally and that can be just as damaging as physical abuse if not worse. He has a bad attitude!

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  • That’s sexual assault. I know you don’t want to lose him but why would you want to stay with someone like that? One day he could rape you! He sexually and mentally abuses you. If a friend was telling you this about her partner what advice would you give? Come on you deserve better then this xx

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  • My partner would never make me feel guilty some times ill say no then change my mind but that’s just when I feel upto it. If I don’t he will just cuddle and fall asleep, that to me is emotional blackmail. He’s trying to have control over you and your body get rid whilst you can ☝

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  • this is emotional abuse, ‘no’ means ‘no’- right? get rid of him as it will lead to him controlling you and your emotions and believe me it will NEVER change. They have a default setting and no matter how many promises he makes it will always be like this! You’re not wrong at all, slowly you will begin to change to please him and this won’t be enough and you’ll start to blame yourself and will end up a mess, tell him to get lost before any real damage is done!

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  • This is one “boy” (can’t call him a man sorry) that you need to get as far away from as possible. This is emotional abuse and controlling ……. Who knows what it would lead to if he’s allowed to continue this dreadful behaviour ….. Please for your own sake get out while you can …… Good luck xx

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  • Please leave him. He is manipulating you and emotionally abusing you. You deserve to be happy not walking on egg shells all the time. It is completely unacceptable for him to treat you this way. It’s time for a brand new fresh start. Be brace, you can do it! 💪🏼 good luck Hun xx

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  • This is not behaviour that would come from a loving partner. That would be classed as rape in a court of law. As the definition of rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual activities carried out against a person without that person’s consent.

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  • That’s called emotional abuse sorry for what your going through but you need to tell him to hit the road u can let someone do that into you that’s the worse sort ov abuse anyone can go through

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  • What would you tell a friend or your daughter if they ever told you their boyfriends was doing that to them? Whatever answer you would give to them is what you should do. Xx

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  • Sounds like a twat if I’m honest. You need to get some friends go out have fun don’t ever depend on a man you can replace them. I’m not having a go but that’s like emotional abuse basically if you don’t do what he says he leaves you and makes you bad about it. I’ve been in a relationship like that. Your better off without him. No man should be shoving his fingers up your bum or lady when you say no it means no. Hope your OK. X

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  • How would he like it if u stuck a finger up his arse without warning! It sounds like you’re being taken f for a mug by a childish little boy. You would be better off sending him on his way and working on yourself. This is mental abuse.

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  • Sounds to me he is trying to control you and he knows he can and emotionally blackmailing you turning things round on you but if u two was to split and you said it’s not what u want he will be doing the running to get you back but either way I think the relationship isn’t right from previous experience it’s hard but u will find your confidence And independence to know u can do it x

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  • People are on here everyday day asking the same questions saying the same things.
    If someone abuses you (which he is clearly doing) or makes you feel worthless and completely controls you by making you apologise for him being a total prick then why do you have to ask what to do?
    You might love him but I GUARANTEE he does not love you. If he did he wouldn’t treat you like that.
    Get rid! There are over 1 billion men in the world. I’m sure there’s a decent one for you somewhere

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  • He’s abusing you emotionally and he has abused you sexually. Honestly, you screamed “no”. Anyone who can continue touching you after that is disgusting in my opinion. You need to get away from him, splitting up will be hard because you love him but you will be so much better off away from him. You will start to be “you” again. See the doctor about your mental health. Take control now before it controls you… It seems harsh to say that but I suffer with mental health issues myself and know if you leave it then it will only get worse. xx

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  • Well for one well done for not showing him pictures cause he definitely sounds like the type to blackmail you with them. Secondly it’s emotional abuse AND last night he assaulted you! I know it feels like you can’t do it right now BUT YOU CAN. if this was someone else writing this, what would you say?xx

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  • Hun, I have been here !!! It was all my fault too, apparently !! It was also all my fault when he starting paying for it, so he would leave me alone – while working 3000 miles away in China.
    We have four children, one of whom is disabled. It was a hard decision, took me years to make it, however I now feel it was the best decision I made in my life.
    He too put unreasonable requests to me, sharing, videoing, anal etc. I say they’re unreasonable because it doesn’t happen in every marriage, they’re not much missing out, they just have an unreal ‘learnt’ idea of what is normal and when we don’t ‘conform’ they try to make us feel like the guilty ones.
    You are NOT guilty, it’s your body, if you’re not comfortable, he should understand, if he doesn’t, his idea isn’t sharing or giving, just ‘taking’ !!
    Time to ‘allow’ him to leave, let it be his choice, you’ll then carry no guilt, get on with your life and improve it !!!!!!
    Good luck Hun, it’s worth loosing one argument to win your sanity, freedom etc !!!

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  • He sounds very controlling and everything has to be done his way or no way at all. If anything he’s sexually assaulted you because he continued after you said no. I wouldn’t fight for someone that wants to leave Hun x

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  • Put yourself out out the picture if I was telling u this what would u tell me or advice me or think about the situation??, don’t let him get in ya head x

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  • Tell I’m to stop try a be manipulative and that u ain’t apologising because he is being a dick Haha excuse the pun lol. If he don’t like it tell him to fuck off don’t let him make u feel bad because he is being a child. I’m sure u do just as much for him as he does u. Good luck but don’t take his shit my luv xxx

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  • What the hell ? I could do not be arsed with a relationship like that . Get rid and move on – sounds like he has got issues . X

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