Can I have a ppp,sorry it’s a bit long… my daughter is 4 years old I found out…

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Can I have a ppp,sorry it’s a bit long… my daughter is 4 years old I found out when she was 3 months old that her father is illegal (from Ghana), he came here to study but has stayed an extra 9 years. When I found out I ended things as he had been cheating too, I found dodgy passports with his pic and different names (one of them was his ‘cousin’) since we split he has constantly let her down, makes promises and breaks them, never takes her anywhere, never calls to see how she is even when I let him know she is really poorly. She would be sat waiting for him as he said he will be 5 mins and either doesn’t show up or is always at least and hour late. I’m all for children having a relationship with their father but she is hurt most of the time, and it breaks my heart because she loves seeing him, I don’t tell her now if anything has been arranged I don’t want her let down again, he does pay maintenance sometimes but it’s so irregular and so little he might as well not bother. I have reported him for being here illegally I was advised to by CAB as I could get in trouble for him being here but nothing was done about it. I also offered to be his reference and went to solicitors with him as he said he was starting the process to be legal, I said on the terms he’s consistent and supports her I would do it for him which I did but he hasn’t stuck to it so I don’t know what’s going on with that now, he went 8 months without seeing her didn’t even send her a bday or xmas card ( he’s a head chef and earns decent money) he lies all the time saying he’s lost his job but then says his pay day has been changed etc silly things like that. It’s to the point now where my daughter says that when she tries to call him he can’t be bothered to call her back and I always make excuses for him because she gets upset,I don’t know what to do, whether to deny contact completely or just let her see him when he decides he can be bothered. Any advice would be great it’s been years of this and it’s so stressful for me and upsetting for her, I know there probably isn’t much I can do I just can’t take anymore of seeing her upset but I know she loves seeing him, thank you
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