Can I have a private post please iam having a child with my boyfriend we both ha…
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Can I have a private post please iam having a child with my boyfriend we both have daughters from our last relationships my lives with me and his with his mum. Anyway we or having conflict over the last name I want the baby to have my last name as my daughter has and lives with me, he wants the baby to have his last name as his daughter has his but my point is the baby is staying in my care and won’t see his family all the time like his daughter iam I in the wrong as he hasn’t payed for anything for the baby I have got everything 😕 any help please xx
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Could you put on my post please thank you I said I would double barrel the name but he has kicked of and said he wants nothing to do with it all and not to have the baby which is why iam asking this question, as iam not doing it to make him stay around. Like I said to him before I have done it once on my own and I’ll do it again if I have too. I never said I wouldn’t but him on the birth certificate:/
It’s his dad, I always assumed that kids take their dads last name or double barrelled. My kids live with me and have different surnames, doesn’t make any difference or bother me at all. And why does “he hasn’t paid for anything for the baby” always come into it? I don’t get it. It’s a surname…
As someone above has said.. My son has his fathers surname and i wish i had listened to my family and given him mine because his dad barely sees him, doesnt bother as much as most dads do. Stick to your guns and do what you feel is best 🙂 xx
I let my 3 kids have my ex boyfriends surname n now I wish i hadn’t!! They live with me n he’s a shit dad hardly sees them n i hate we don’t have the same surname 🙁 stick to it guns . . If u get married one dad perhaps change their names then so all the same ? On failing that double barrel it ??
Can I just say it doesn’t matter if you have bought everything.. that is not important when making a decision like this, and neither is the fact that his family won’t see the baby.
It’s something that one of you is going to have to compromise on. If you feel that strongly you need to tell him this.. obviously he wants his child to have his last name, but I can also see your point..He will be involved just as much as you so like I say someone will have to compromise!
The babies name won’t effect their health or well being which is obviously most important. My daughter has my partners last name, even if we split up it wouldn’t bother me, I chose to have a baby with him so! X
I have a daughter to my ex, she has his last name. I am 15 weeks pregnant with my boyfriend of nearly 3 years child and he/she will have his last name. The mother gets to experience a lot that the father does not. Thats why i see it is right for the child to have the dads last name.
Just give both. My boys have mine and my baby now will have a double barrel surname so they ain’t left put as my ex’s daughter from previous relationship has his last name so that way all children r included x
You can either double barrel both your last names or just give yours and tell him he needs to accept it, your not married so you don’t legally need to put his last name and if one day you do get married you can change her name then?
Just remind him that just because the baby won’t have his last name doesn’t effect his rights as long as he is on the birth certificate then he has all the same rights as you x
Wait why does it matter who’s care your child is under? That don’t mean the baby has your second name just because the baby will be living with you.. however it’s something you’re gunna have to debate between yourselves as we can’t tell you what to do
He can still be on the birth certificate and maintain his rights but ultimately since you aren’t married the registrar will register the baby under what name you choose…I would go double barrelled as someone else suggested x
You don’t pick the babies surname on the basis of which family members they will see more or who has brought them more stuff😡 that’s awful!
The baby is just as much his as yours…
Like others have suggested, why don’t you do a double barrelled surname as then you’ll both be happy.
I plan to give my child the fathers last name.. #1 its his firt born son, and neither of his daughters has his last name due to him not being there when the bc was signed..
Its honestly up to you… with him being in the picture , id give baby his last name its what i was raised to know as right.., as far as him not helping or buying tell him how you feel, communicate with him.. express why you are concerned about these issues and that he needs to step up.. and if he is bringing other children in the world he should probably start doing right by the kid he already has.. its not the moms place to raise his daughter.. he should be doing it.. IMO! i encourage my bf to be a huge part of his daughters lives.. because me and new baby arent ever replacing them, we are just an addition to the family..
Ultimately you have to decide whether to give the dad the rights to name or do a double (yours and his) or do just yours..
Good luck
My daughter has her father’s last name. Their is times I want to change it but I don’t. He’s not in her life but he’s on the birth certificate. End of the day he’s still her dad and it’s a tradition I’ve never thought twice about.
Combine the names… Me and my partner is still together. But me and my partner agreed to combine. So our son has both surnames to his name. It makes it longer but he’s happy. Once and if I ever get married to my partner I will then drop my surname off his name. Xx
Atleast this way you and the dad will be happy?
The ‘norm’ has always been the fathers name, mine have their fathers name no questions asked, but I completely understand as you already have a daughter with your name, it’s a toughie! I would do double barrel with both you names?? At least the baby will have the same as their sisters from either side and no child will feel left out. X
So just because the baby will be living with you & you have bought everything for said baby that means you don’t have to put his last name on birth certificate? Bollocks the baby is his as much as yours & has as much right over that baby as you do! Not putting his last name on the birth certificate takes his rights away! Why would you want to do that to a man who will be a part of HIS child’s life??
Ridiculous post. If your together, and planning a future, then give the baby his name. Does it really matter?!?! Im not married, both my kids have his last name, so does the dog.
My daughter has my surname , I to had the same dilemma & pressures.
I do not regret for one second that my daughter has my surname.
If we had been married then she would have taken his name , or if we had married I would of changed her name on changing mine.
If you really are struggling a double barrell surname is a good option .
Both my daughter and son are in my name simply because I have them under my roof and there was another reason behind it but not going into that but the father knows why. The dad still has lots to do with my children and will always be there and pays for them x
My little boy has his dads last name as a 3rd middle name. So when you say it it sounds double barrelled but legally he’s got my last name. His dad is on the birth certificate and was more than happy to do this xx
Double barrel it. I fell pregant with my oldest in middle of my wedding plans. If she had come before we got married she would of been double barreled but with his last name last xc
Double barrel? May be a good comprise? This is the reason me and my hubby got married before even talking about trying. There’s no way we’d ever agree otherwise. We’re both far too stubborn 😂
I was gutted that I didn’t have the same surname as my children but if he is going to be a part of the baby’s life I agree with them having dads name or double barrelled xx
My first born has my name but my two younger has my exs name. Kids live with me. It doesn’t bother the kids at all that they have different names. They are brothers regardless
My 2 girls both have my last name and my oh was more than happy with this. When we get married we will change the 3 our names to his. Do what you feel is right x