Can i have a private post please. My ex husband and I split up early last year,…
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Can i have a private post please.
My ex husband and I split up early last year, he left me for someone else. Things started brilliantly was seeing kids on regular basis, both co parenting well, then he moved abroad to live with then gf and saw kids twice in time he was gone, stopped paying maintenance and called initially once/twice a week then not unless they asked. They split up and he came back to uk but since hes been back and got employment hes still not regularly seeing them, he promises and lets them down and he still isnt paying maintainance in full. I have moved on and my bf is round everyday, does school runs with me etc, treats the kids like their his own. The kids have started to pick up on the fact their dad doesnt seem as interested as bf. How do i go about talking to the kids about this? My heart hurts for them to be going through this, my eldest 9 even asked why my bf couldnt be her dad. Ive always left the door open saying he could see them anytime. What more can i do?
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Can you reply to tias comment. The reason i ask is again this afternoon ive had 2 of the 3 children crying cos hes let them down again.
Thankyou. May i add that ontop of this when the kids see him they dont seem excited to spend time with him and then he makes it out to be my fault.
My ex walked out when my son was 1.5 yrs old he never bothered with him from that day, paid £10 mth maintenance then that stopped. My son is now 12 and has said he dosent want to see him as hes not bothered it is heartbreaking but my son knows ive not stood in the way. My partner treats him like his own and when my son asks why his dad isnt bothered all i can say is its his loss very difficukt x
Leave the door open, and let him keep letting them down and one day they’ll decide they don’t want to see him any more then he’ll realised he’s let them down that much he’s lost them. I know it sounds horrible but sometimes it’s just what you gotta do. X
They already knows and understand what’s going on. I wouldn’t bring up a discussion like that unless I noticed it was making me them sad