Can I have an anonymous post please? Bit long and a bit complicated, please bar…
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Can I have an anonymous post please?
Bit long and a bit complicated, please bare with me
*possible faking pregnancy*
My best friends brother is with a girl, they have a 3 year old together. She is currently saying she’s 21weeks pregnant, bare in mind the father has been working all of the ultrasound appointments, and none of the family have seen any ultrasounds. She refuses to talk about the baby “just incase something bad happens” she didn’t have any complications with her last pregnancy so no one understands why she would say that. There have been many many things that indicate she’s not pregnant, not to mention she has no bump what so ever. Apparently today she went for the gender scan, but she’s told the family that the placenta is in the way, so they can’t see the baby.. mostly, I just want to know if this is even possible, can a placenta obstruct the view of baby? I didn’t think it would be able to, considering how much an ultrasound passes through other things, skin and tissue and can see baby. And secondly, should the family ask her to prove the pregnancy to them? Or how could they get the truth out of her? There is about 5 family members I’m very close with who just want to know the truth, and have no idea how to find out unless they wait until the baby is apparently due..
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A placenta in my opinion wouldn’t stop you seeing the gender, not at 21 weeks. I own a private scanning business and I have had a few people that have actually been for scans claiming they can feel kicking etc and there has been no baby. If you are right this a psychological problem so don’t be too hard on her. Maybe she needs some help x
Are people seriously suggesting that the OP, who is only a friend of the sister of this girl’s partner should demand to see medical records or scan pictures? Nobody is entitled to that information but the woman herself. OP, has your friend’s brother himself said anything about it? Is he suspicious?
I work in ultrasound. You can see a baby though placenta but not always in an amazing amount of detail so gender may not be able to be identified through placenta. So there’s a chance it is true…
Book her a private scan as a present between you on a day where your friends brother is off work so he has to be present.
Not having a bump doesn’t indicate anything and sometimes the placenta can obstruct certain views, I have anterior and at my 20 weeks scan he couldn’t get very clear images for me so wanted to give them to me for free but I still paid as he was really good at what he did and very reassuring.
If she is lying there could be reasons so please don’t go mad at her, but if she is pregnant I think you all need to be a little easy on her seems a lot like everyone is gossiping about her which isn’t a nice situation for anyone to be in either..
My placenta was covering baby’s legs BUT you can still see the legs so yes that wouldn’t of happened now they might not have been able to tell the sex but it wouldn’t of obstructed view and she could have/would have gained a picture x
No it wouldn’t. My placenta was at the front but saw my boy perfectly fine. Faking things such as illnesses or pregnancies can be a sign of mental illnesses such a munchausen syndrome x
I’m not sure if the placenta can obscure the view but… I’m 20 + 3 and have had zero pregnancies symptoms so far asides from my boobs growing and have NO bump what so ever and haven’t even gained weight. (Before anyone judges ftm to be and also up until about 2 weeks ago I still had a 6 pac, baby is normal size and perfectly healthy) I went for my gender scan yesterday and wasn’t able to find out as baby was too low down to detect its sex so have another app tomorrow.
No the placenta won’t stop you seeing baby at all.. the family can ask her some questions if they want but there’s a big chance she will go off on one but if she does then I would say she was lying. If she is then she would have no problem with talking about it and showing scan photos off. Just tread carefully.xx
I’ll ask for proof because if she’s faking being pregnant and she says she had a miscarriage it’s pretty low of her. But not having a bump doesn’t mean anything I didn’t have one and I found out about my daughter at 23+5 days xx
My daugher did not show till she was 28 weeks we only found out when she was 21 week so yes it is posiptal not to have a bump up till late in it and no you can get and record of she without her saying so
I dont think its any of your concern full stop to be honest. Its between her and her partner. Nobody else. You are not even a family member!
Has your mates Brother expressed a concern? I don’t see that it has anything to do with anyone else unless he himself had issues about it and if he does he would have been able to take time off work to go to at least one scan if hes that worried. Has she got maternity notes ? You know something bad may have already happened and shes closing herself off I don’t want to jump to conclusions. What was she like before the pregnancy, was she open ,chatty etc this girl may be going through something mentally difficult or she may indeed be keeping things to herself as its hers and her partners decision . x
I didn’t have a bump at 21 weeks,a little gut maybe. Could be something like she’s lost a baby between her first and this one and she wants to be cautious. If the dad isn’t worried everyone else should probably just leave the girl alone,if she is lying then youll know in a few months anyway.
Does she have a folder with pregnancy notes? Is this something your best friends brother has doubts about?
Although some women can have periods throughout pregnancy, it would be a big coincidence here as it does sound a bit dodgy. Surely the ‘father’ would know if the woman’s not had periods. Surely he would have seen the pregnancy test?
Not having scan pics etc is very odd. The whole thing sounds as though she’s lying. Speak to the father if you don’t feel able to just ask the woman for proof.
If the father has no issues with this then he may resent what everyone is saying so probably best to just wait and see, as difficult as that may be for the other family members involved.
Ugh these post annoys me it’s none of your business and quite frankly none of the family’s either it’s between her and her partner. I’m 26 weeks and most people would say I haven’t a bump just fat 😂 you can be prevented from finding out sex unsure about the placenta . My partner has been working all my scans appointments etc. I think maybe you and whoever else should back off and when the times comes use will find out cause sooner or later a baby needs to come out especially at 20 odd weeks even if she miscarried she would be in labour in hospital I doubt very much she’s lying
I had a placenta pravia I’d that’s what it’s call mine was covering cervix and front facing and never had a problems seeing baby on scans I had 5 scans in total and never was a problem
It can happen but they rearrange the scan to get the gender of the baby x it happened to me with my first and third x. Also you could ask her to go to a midwife appointment
Not everyone when pregnant has a huge bump. As i am naturally slim, it took me ages to show. But everything else you’ve said does sound suspicious x
Guess you will all just have to wait! Especially if it’s none of your business!!
If someone asked me to prove my pregnancy, I would tell them to fuck right off
Well you’re going to find out in about 20 weeks anyway! I’d just sit back and watch how this plays out!! X
My bestfriend didnt know she was pregnant till she was in labour so anythings possible
my placenta was anterior (on the front) with my 2nd and they could see gender etc no problem.
My placenta was in front and we couldn’t see the gender clearly enough for the entire pregnancy x
Ask for scan or get her to do pregnancy test in front of you also ask her to see pregnancy notes