Could I have a PP. Thanks I am just curious how other working mummies cope with…
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Could I have a PP. Thanks
I am just curious how other working mummies cope with guilt – like not being home in the evening, missing assemblies at school cos u can’t get away, the house always being a tip etc etc (list goes on). I’m struggling just now – I have a good but hard job so my shifts vary week to week including doing nightshift. I feel like I’m hardly at home and when I am, I’m exhausted and want to go to bed. My girls (11 + 12) are making comments now of that I’m never home, they don’t see me much and its upsetting them. We need my income to survive so lowering my hours isn’t an option. Is this normal for working mums or am I letting my family down? 😪
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I love my children however, never felt guilty. Needed to work. My partner did 6/2 I did 2/10, saves on childcare too. Their dad always went to parents evening, I managed a few morning assemblys. As my girls got older they knew money didn’t grow on trees and I needed to work. I found it easier working the nightshift though did that two and a half years. Still on 2/10 now. They have their dad which is just as important as their mum…One has moved out now and has a child of their own. So just youngest left and we hardly see her she’s nearly 15..Don’t get me wrong I missed them but you can’t feed and water them on fresh air X
My mother had to work after being widowed young and there were times when she felt guilty and we felt we were missing out due to what others said but we as adults now appreciate what good times we had with our mother. My husband and I always worked through necessity when our childern were young and due to our jobs we rarely had time as a family but we made that time count and our children, although they might have moaned at the time, don’t feel they were let down. They are in their 30s with their own families and face the same pressures but in all honesty it’s other people that make us feel guilty and your children will understand you are doing what’s best for your circumstances, have faith in your own choices.
I know you are tired but maybe you need to make more effort when you are together. I work shifts too – including nights and weekends so I get that on your days off you want to just do nothing/get the house sorted etc. Letting your family down is being a bit harsh on yourself, bit it is obviously affecting them if they have spoken to you about it x
it’s hard I went full time before Xmas after working part time evenings around the hubby.i second my days off cleaning.and if it’s a weekend we all chip in quickly and make sure we go somewhere even if it’s just the park. if I’m home in the evening we will watch a film
it’s not much but they understand I have to work if we want nice things and a holiday every year. I always book a week off in may school holidays with them and will spend nearly every day out doing something they choose which I put money away for so there’s enough to do it all x
My daughter is 5 yrs old & she doesn’t understand that I can’t be at home sometimes …. I work shifts & some of those are Sat night sleepovers … I say to my lg that mummy needs the money to take care of her & her dad & so we can buy each other nice things , it’s heartbreaking but needs must x
Hey chick I know how u feel my daughter is nearly 11 and all I get from her is ur never home like I’ve said to her I’ve gotta work to earn the money for u I’m on shift work as well it’s so hard to spend time with them just when ur not in work spend as much time as u can with her we are going away this weekend with her Dancining so it’s a weekend we can spend together I haven’t spent the a weekend with her in a long time xxx
I don’t think your letting em down. I feel for them for missing out on time with you. But eventually they will see how hard you’ve worked to keep them clothed and fed. I personally don’t know how you can change that. But hard working mums are GOOD mums 🙂
The guilt fades pretty quick when the bills are paid, everyone has everything they need and no one is going without xx