Could you please post …
Please please has anyone got any advice..
I had a daughter 5 years ago with an ex, both him and my mum were my birthing partners, I was induced and the outcome was a Emergency csection, my mum was with me from the Wednesday – saturday then obviously didn’t see the baby being born.
This time I’m hoping for a natural birth but as everyone knows it don’t always go to plan so havent been so worried about it as I may get another c section who knows to which my mum has said she isn’t going to take it away from my boyfriend seeing his first baby come into this world, i could have the baby one night im on my own we don’t know the outcome so when my partner has a few times said he wants just him there with me I haven’t taken notice but ive had a nightmare its really upset me and made me so scared and anxious. He has some on one occasion your mum takes over and he’ll have a go if she was to be there at the birth,yeah my mum is my best friend my rock we are very close and always said I wanted her to be there if I had another child as she missed out first time, so if she had been there for the first I wouldn’t be so worried about it as she’s done it before and I know she’d understand. Butihavejttold her my other half doesn’t want her there she’s quite hotheaded and I think it will upset her, I wouldn’t let her take over she couldn’t be there start to finish Cos my daughter I just want her for the delivering part.. My other half has mentioned it to a few people his wishes they say they understand his feelings and should jusy be us two. I don’t want him to argue with my mum. And I know it could end in a c section so could be all this for nothing but I really don’t know what to do, I’m starting to panic healreadyhates the fact I speak to her everyday and spend some weekends with her and once a fortnight she has my daughter overnight, they are very close as I only moved out last year so we were together the three of us for nearly 4 years of my daughters life. Unfortunately we all became homeless and all ended up apart, I miss living with my mum and have no friends pretty much, and my other half don’t live with Me at moment as in temp accomadation. He’s told me when we are living together it should be the four of us at weekends and we can’t see our families as much as we do,and he doesn’t want people over when he gets home from work and said to me “you mum does realise she can’t come and go like she does now it’s our home and you won’t be spending as much time with her” it upsets me, she’s my mum she has feelings she doesn’t see me everyday no nomore she doesn’t see my daughter everyday and tbh she’s lonely as much as me, I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression through housing situations ive fought for where I am now, I’ve done it all by myself no one else and my partner has cheek to say we are one step closer, what was all the fuss about, and moaning He won’t live with Me when baby is first born u fortunately isn’t my fault as im not allowed tohaveanyone living withme currently and i mention him it could backfire the help im receiving from my local housing, I can’t make things go faster with a permemant house and he’s stressing me out telling me to bother thenand hurry things which ive had two meltdowns with the stress of the housing situation and he isn’t helping with the arguing and I’m not doing enough 😔😔
Sorry it’s so long I don’t know what to do just under 9 weeks till due date 😪