Hi can i have a private post on benifits please as i know its a touchy subject f…

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Hi can i have a private post on benifits please as i know its a touchy subject for many people.
Currently i am in a joint claim for esa as my partner has very servier depression and has tried to commit suicide a number of times before we got together. some days can’t get even be around us as he is very down. He is currently seeing crisis team and a counciler. But anyways i have a 19month old and i am currently 32 weeks pregnant. I was planning on going back into work as i fell pregnant with my second after being told i couldnt conceive anymore children so yes this is why i am currently on benifits and living off his money now to pay my bills as where we live i am the main tennant. 2 weeks ago i had to see a work coach about getting back into work and even though iv just gone onto his esa claim as he wasnt living with me up untill november as we were in a relationship but i refused to let him live with us because of his depression and past debts but he always came over nearly everyday to see and spend time with his daughter which really helped with his mental state. So we actually got dobbed into the benifit fraud team because of this and with evidence that he does see his child everyday and proof we were in a relationship. I was forced to have him move him as i pretty much had nothing to stand on and they waa going to take me to court if i didnt. But anyways Iv been told by the jobcentre to go back onto income support. I was wondering in this situation is this even right? Would he get esa and i get income support so i don’t have to live off him or would he have to go onto my income support claim and could it be less than we get now?
Im a little worried because now its all on him if he refuses to give me his part or feeling very low at one point then i won’t be able to pay my bills. I am so frightened of this.
Also I do intend to go back to work eventually but its looking know as i will have to wait untill my oldest can get into nursery for the free 16 hours (don’t no how it works yet) and then hopefully if my grandad can look after my youngest for a couple of hours a day depending on everything being well. I will be able to return back to work as with my partners depression at the moment i am unaware if he will be able to look after any of our daughters at this stage.
So yes now iv explained my situation. Does anyone no:
1. I will be able to claim income support for myself along with his esa claim or would it just be either one or the other?
2. With his depression starting to go bad again will social services get involved?
3. As anyone ever been in this or a similar situation before now and did it ever go bad?
4. Is there actually anywhere i can go or turn to in result of my whole situation. Feel like im drounding sometimes doing it mainly on my own.

Please no bashing. I am very sorry its so long!! And please don’t think he is a bad or awful dad because he really isnt. Just struggles alot mentally.
Thank you. X
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