hi can i have a private post on the advice page please , it’s quite long sorry m…

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hi can i have a private post on the advice page please , it’s quite long sorry me and my ex broke up when baby was 2 months old, i got with someone else quite soon after which i regret now, and he threatened to kill my new partner and himself, this was all out of jealousy he is very depressed but not willing to do anything about it. I’ve offered all the support i possibly can because I don’t want our child to grow up with out a dad, something happened and social services and domestic violence team have both agreed he is unfit to take baby by himself so i have to be present, (he never hurt the child or anything like that it was between dad and my new partner) however i have also split up with the new partner 6 months ago) since then baby’s dad hasn’t really bothered, never asks how our child is, pops in to see him once a week for about 10 minutes max. doesn’t pay anything, i’ve recieved 60 since march. I know this is a lot more than most dad’s do so I do appreciate it always says he’ll give some money when he gets paid but never see a penny, but i manage quite well without him anyway, however i’ve been seeing someone else and he knows this and ever since he’s been threatening to kill my new partner if he goes near our child who’s now a year old, and also threatening to kill himself, i’m in no rush for my new partner to meet the child at all but if things go well i obviously eventually will, he asks everyday how the child is and a genuinely nice person, i’ve known him a few years. So my problem is how do i go about all this, i don’t want our child to grow up without his dad if he does end up killing himself and i would feel forever guilty for not doing more to prevent it, but he was the one cheating on me whilst i was pregnant with his child, but I do want to do something for myself and take a chance at happiness for once. Do I try and help my ex with the depression first then focus on my relationship or do i just ignore his threats, i’m not sure if he’d go through with it as he would have done it already if he was that serious about it, and social services told me ‘he’s not your problem, if he wants to kill himself let him, you need to focus on the child not put you’re energy into his threats’ i don’t even know what i’m looking for here, anyone been in a similar situation? how did everything turn out? thank you xx
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