Hi may I get a private post please?
Please can you ladies tell me if I’m over reacting here or have a genuine reason to dislike my friends! Ever since I’ve had my baby all they’ve done is criticise and judge me …so it feels.
My baby has a routine which works well for us. Unfortunately I’m not able to do the things I use to do anymore such as going out for drinks in the evenings or just walking out the house at anytime to go knock on a mates door and pop in for a cuppa. If I go out now I plan in advance. A trip to the shop takes me at least 20 bloody minutes to prepare lol. Some of my friends don’t understand this. They expect me to just come out and do the things I used to. I’m trying to make effort I really am but they really do not understand that I have a child now and the child comes first.
I also get remarks about how I deal with my child. For example he’s 11 months old at the moment still on formula. One friend suggested I put him on cows milk already. Another one suggested I use smaller nappies on him. They even suggest I get his haircut because he will look much better. I’ve had enough some of my “friends” haven’t even got kids and the ones who do have very young kids! So barely any mothering experience to go by . Am I being unreasonable for feeling so much dislike towards them to the put where I don’t even want to see them? I’m happy with it being my and my baby. Sticking to our daily routine and getting on with it. Ok I don’t go out as much anymore but I’m happy. Just feel like I’ve learnt who my friends are over the last almost year.