Hiya can I have a PPP? I’m a new mum and currently in a court battle with soci…
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Hiya can I have a PPP?
I’m a new mum and currently in a court battle with social services due to my past and mental health.
I have proved them wrong and keep jumping through fire but their still trying to make my life hard.
I feel so alone and if im a danager like social say i am is my baby is better off without me?!?
I love my baby but I’m starting to feel I’m not good enough. I feel so alone and on the edge ready to crack.
I have friends but everyone is busy living their own life all they say is “you can do this your strong stay positive” but I can’t i just feel like I don’t exist anymore like bringing my baby into this world was the worse thing I could have done for us both.
My child’s father is no where to be seen since social services involvement while I was pregnant his family have never met my child either.
I’m so lost and scared. I know I can’t give to much information due to friends being on this page but I can’t tell them how I feel and I can’t tell my GP due to the court involvement. I have a very happy healthy baby meeting every milestone.
Should I concider abortion and give my baby the life social services think I can’t?
I’m so scared. 🙁
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It’s due to my family history and my mental health problems. That’s honestly it!
That’s why it’s so confusing I’ve not had any issues before pregnancy and being round other families children or felt depressed in around the last year. I’m also nothing like my family iv never had any running with police or drugs. They think I will adapt my families Behaviour also thank you everyone for your kind words and support ❤
Sorry can u add to my post yes adoption not abortion.
Thank you
Sorry could you add to my post please.
Iv done courses because of social services, also have a therapist, I can’t tell anyone how I feel as it will be used in court having post nat was one of their concerns I only started to feel like this about a week ago my baby is nearly 5months old. I’m not allowed home with my child I’m in a placement being watched on how I parent and manage my moods. I’m only allowed out a few hours a day.
It’s so hard to stay positive and strong when your constantly being put down you start to believe it and question yourself. I have an amazing bond with my baby and have no concerns with my therapist or the health visitor, other professionals are happy it’s just social services I have court again in a few weeks I’m also onto my 6th social worker which don’t help as they only know what’s in my file not about me.
I don’t want to give my baby up but if they think I’m such a danager then is it not best? And why have they let me bond? Why not just take my baby or are they wanting me to crack?
My solicitor said that their just trying to find anything and the guardian (my baby’s voice) has no concerns either. So why can i not just go home and build a life with my child? I’m so confused and angry.
Social services seem to be destroying teh wrong families.
Keep fighting Hun and stay strong! I’m sure you’re a fantastic mummy, if you weren’t you wouldn’t be bothering to write on here for advice! Please don’t let social or anyone else push you to breaking point, you’re all your baby has so you have to keep fighting. Don’t give up! You’ve proven them wrong before, you can do it again. X
1stly can I say well done, as u said u have a happy healthy baby, been a mummy is hard work especially on ur own with zero support so please be proud of yourself, and don’t be scared to talk to ur gp as asking for help is nothing to be ashamed of in fact it’s a very hard and brave thing to do, please seek help and take as much support as u can if not for your sake than for ur child’s sake, if anything it’s a positive thing to do xx
Do you have a local barnados or family centre or anything like that? Ask your health visitor if there are any family charities that could help you get onto courses and maybe a support worker? Try and get yourself on some courses for you and baby and keep yourself busy. Can’t but info here but inbox me if you want a chat. We had a running with SS last year won our case. They tried to lie but our health visitors midwife school and everything wouldn’t back down to the social worker…
Pls don’t give up the ss are only keeping an eye on you until it goes to court if thay thought you couldn’t look after your baby thay would have put him in foster care already keep doing as thay ask you will look back at this one day and realise thay are helping you
You can ask for a Advocacy worker. to be there at every meeting with social work even home visits…and its free
“ITS someone that sticks up for you…sort of family rights worker.
Best bet is to type it into google and find your nearest one or PHONE the social worker ask her for contact details of a Advocacy worker (also the best part they are not social work they have nothing to do with social worker)
and (basically your the Advocacy person boss you can ask them anything and ask them to attend every meeting u have with social work …even home visits.
Also go to your doctor ask for the baby to have a full medical. and take with you to the next social work visit.
u can mail me aswell if u need more information x
I had all that with my son as I had social service on me as a child I just kept proving them wrong don’t give up you can do this my boys are my world I done everything in my power to keep them and 6 months down the line they left me alone hold your head up high you baby needs you ❤️ my inbox is open anytime
Dont let them break you thats what they want stay strong and show them your a good mum. Social services are scum dont let them get you down and dont let them convince you that your not a good mum. You are a good mum and if the other authority figures are saying that then listen to them but please take what ss says and let it go over your head dont give their crap a seconds thinking time x
Keep fighting and stay strong don’t let them make u think different I’m sure your a great mum social services can be cunts prove them wrong and fight all the way is there not someone you can talk to how u feel as I suffer depression and been scared to go doctors incase they involve social services too but feel better I spoke to someone that doesn’t know me well and made me think positive life’s cruel more than welcome to message me even if just for someone to chat to chin up think positive x x x
I was a foster child so had a social worker. In turn I had to be assessed to see if I was an able mother for my son. I passed before long before I gave birth so I was lucky and didn’t have to deal with them. But if they say jump u have to say how high. There only interest is the protection of your child. So you have to prove them wrong keep going and prove them wrong. You can do this!!
Go to the doctors and get help for ur mental health etc and ask Ss what support they can give u instead if take the baby. I was in your shoes and I did everything they said and more and now I’m being signed off.
Never give up fighting sweetie, it could be a test to see if you will crack under pressure. Keep proving everybody wrong your baby needs mummy ❤
I have post natal depression too and I’ve never been in a place like that!! There is obviously deeper underlying problems to have to be watched all the time.
You’ve come this far keep going please don’t give in ask for help and if u want someone to listen few free to message me anytime good luck x
You can be a good mum who suffers with depression,i suffer with depression and am a good mum .x
U have yo prove u wanna be there for him no matter what u have to do and admit. Ask for as much help as u can possibly get.
Op is welcome to message me.
Do you mean adoption?
Do you mean adoption? Xx
Can pm if you want I have experience