I’m currently pregnant but not with the dad anymore.. we already have a little b…
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I’m currently pregnant but not with the dad anymore.. we already have a little boy together and he was at the birth, every scan etc and he’s on the birth certificate.
My question is.. he’s demanding that he comes to the birth because it’s his baby and he wants to be there.. but I just don’t want him too! He really disrespected me when we were together he cheated on me, he even brought one of his “lady friends” back to my house while I was out and slept with her in my bed!!! Honestly I can’t stand the sight of him and it makes me feel really uncomfortable even just thinking about him watching me in that situation.
Am I being selfish? Is there anything I can do? X
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Tell him he can sit outside in the car park and come in when your good and ready👍🏻. If he wants to be there that bad that will be good enough for him x
I feel that yes he was a prick, his actions are absolutely disgusting, but in my opinion (and I mean no wrong on anyone) I feel him being punished by not being allowed 2 see his child enter the world because of something that happened in the relationship is wrong.
He’s still this child’s father and he has rights too, I feel it’s only fair.
Has he been there for your other child since the breakup?
I’d hate to think of him spoiling the birth for you, but he sounds like any parent wanting to see what he created with you being brought into the world, it’s a moment he will never get back that he was allowed to have with his other child, your unborns sibling..
For your unborns sake, put your feelings (that I 100% get, and appreciate) aside and try and build the relationship in some way to make the birth as pleasant as possible for both of you.
Best of luck and sorry if I upset anyone xx
No your defiantly not being selfish at all!!!! Don’t let him near the hospital while your giving birth!!! Tell him to run on… what a joke of a man!!! You’ll be going through enough without him there making it even worse for you!
Labour you need support and love around you, feeling uncomfortable around him won’t help you or the baby if your not happy. Put yourself first like he did sleeping with a woman in your bed, disgusting! You aren’t denying him being a dad but that is such a special hard time for you, think of what you need and that’s someone to help you through it. He has no right demanding that when it’s very personal anyway, you won’t want him seeing you like that I’m sure x
You have every right to have who you want in the room when you give birth if he wants his child to be born safely then he will have to understand and respect you dont feel he should be in the room no reason why he cant wait outside though its your show and i never had my boys dad in with me i even told him to get out the room while i got ready for a scan, just laughed at how he complained that he had to get out and the doctor telling him off 😁😁 xx
You’re the patient until the baby arrives even then he hasn’t any chance. The bottom line is it’s your choice you’re the one in labour not him, though if he’s there you can call him all sorts. But it’s up to you not him if him not being there makes labour less stressful or easier for you then that’s what you do.
If you dont want him in the room let your midwife know and when you go in to Labour etc when you get ti hospital just let them know you dont want him in the room. At the end of the day you dont want any uncomfortable atmospheres around you and adding to it all whislt giving birth. Once baba is out and you are decent then he can come in x
I couldn’t imagine trying to give birth with someone that I detest in the room. I’d let him wait outside but whilst I was trying to bring the baby into the world safely I would want someone who I would feel were supporting me xx
He has a right to be at the hospital but not to be in the delivery room. It is your body and if you don’t want him seeing you push a baby out that’s your porrogative. Tell him to wait in the visitors area
It’s your choice you you want in the delivery room!!! You have to be comfortable with who you have there! And if you don’t want him there you shouldn’t… just let him know when he/she is born… and let him visit then…
No hope in hell would i let him wait in the room out side yes but not in the room ur lucky he wants to be there my ex couldnt be bothered with any of ours and still cant so ur lucky that he wants to be even if he is a dick x
If he’s the dad and wants to be there in ever way then it’s only far just because he didn’t make a good boyfriend don’t mean they going to be a bad dad he has the right to be there xx
No way would I have him there after doing the things he’s done he can see the baby after its born x
He may have been a twat 2 u but hes still baby’s dad and has as much rights as u
I didn’t have my ex at the birth of our son. But that’s for different reasons xx
Let him be there as soon as you have given birth but you have every right to choose who is there while you are in labour. X
Id have outside the room! Don’t blame you for not wanting him there but just outside is fair on you both!