It’s not baby related as such but in terms of losing friends after having kids. …

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It’s not baby related as such but in terms of losing friends after having kids.

Bit of background my friend and I have known each other since we were born (our moms were friends and worked together) we used to do sleepovers, spend weekends together when little so much so she’s like the sister I’ve never had. She said the same when I told her this. We seen each other through some really hard times, including her breakdown of last relationship where I would go over to just talk and help her, staying to the early hours of the morning etc despite having to get up at 6am for work etc.
Things started to change when i met my now husband – all of a sudden she was too busy-I moved in with my other half and she disappeared for a few months, I was contacting her but no reply and then found out her boyfriend had dumped her so I made myself available etc and got her through that as she was devastated. Our friendship has always been slightly one sided worse so when she meets someone as she becomes so engrossed she forgets everyone.
When I got engaged she was one of the first people I told and went straight to her once I got home (engaged abroad)and asked her to be my maid of honour. She was pretty crap at it tbh (arranged my own hen do amongst other things) but was happy she was by my side on my big day. Fast forward a couple of years and she has met someone and they’ve gotten engaged- im over the moon for her but again it’s been me contacting her, arranging everything to see them etc including them turning up for a grand total of 15mins on my sons 1st birthday 😞
I have been WhatsApping nearly every week/couple of days asking how she’s going, if she needs any help etc with planning to not getting replies to days later.

Yesterday I have again messaged her, as always, asking how the planning is going as I never hear from her, even made a joke about it saying hello stranger, and again arranging for them to come visit as I haven’t seen her since December.
She replied that they have booked a wedding venue etc and all the planning was going ok, bridesmaids etc are sorted (I wasn’t asked but I’m ok with that) and have I got my invite yet.

I received it this morning (her dad dropped it to me as they live a couple of roads over) and we haven’t been invited to the wedding only the reception on the night which is an hours drive away and we would have to stay there as our little boy wouldn’t last long.

I’m actually feeling heartbroken – I know that you lose friends later on in life but I have put so much effort in to our friendship and thought we would be at least invited to the wedding ceremony etc.
My husband has actually said do they only want us to go to get an extra gift as he can’t understand why they wouldn’t invite us

Before anyone says it is nothing to do with us having a little one as we said we would be happy to leave him with his grandparents for the weekend if they wanted no children at the wedding etc OR nothing to do with numbers as she was explaining they are having extra tables set up for the children as well as any last minute adjustments and the church holds 120 people but they’ve only invited 110

I just feel like this is the nail in the coffin to our friendship as it’s been one sided all along

I know it’s trivial but it just feels like I’ve lost my best friend and I’ve already lost loads since I became a mom

Am i right to feel hurt?

Thank you
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