Please could you put a private post for me please My question is should I leav…

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Please could you put a private post for me please

My question is should I leave the relationship or stay?

A bit of background
Me and my husband have been together from the age of seventeen. We have been married for eleven years and together for seventeen years. We have two children together.

I love him with all my heart but can’t take the constant accusations of cheating. I very rarely go out and barely have any friends. He has been like this since we first got together.

He has accused me of cheating because I wouldn’t slow dance at a wedding with him. He says I used my eyes to ask my brother in law to dance with me. I never danced with anyone at the wedding but did join in across the table with the hand actions to Saturday night after my brother in law started doing it.

I have been accused of cheating on him because I went out for a cigarette on a family holiday whilst staying at a hotel and apparently was gone for thirty minutes. Me and the brother in law both went to the respective toilets after finishing our cigarettes. My husband is accusing me of having a quickie in the toilets with him.

I have been accused again of cheating on him with my brother in law, whilst seven months pregnant. My brother in law was waiting at our house for hubby to arrive. When hubby arrived I was in a bad mood with him and wouldn’t talk to him due to him arriving back hours late. He took this as a sign that I had cheated on him.

I was accused of cheating on him with the best man at my sisters wedding because my husband wanted sex the night of the wedding when we got home. I said no and that I was too tired after a long day of being a bridesmaid.

I have been accused of cheating because on numerous occasions my husband came home from work to find me sat in bed doing coursework on my laptop. He wanted to know why I was wearing only underwear and perceived this as a sign of cheating. I explained I got too hot and sweaty due to the heat coming from the laptop.

I have never cheated on my husband and always remained faithful throughout our relationship. despite this when we first got together on a family holiday. Myself, brother and sister met a couple of Italian guys who we hung out with for the duration of the family holiday. My sister got with one of the guys. Whereas me and Bro hung out with them just as friends.
I have also been attracted to someone at work and spoke to them when I saw them around at work. I never let it go any further than this as I didn’t want to jeopardise my relationship with my boyfriend now husband.

I told my boyfriend about this after he went through a similar thing to myself. I wanted him to understand that I could relate to what he was going through. The difference is my boyfriend did let things progress. Numbers were exchanged and they would talk for hours on the phone. I didn’t exist. When I asked him to get her to stop texting she started phoning him instead. They would meet up for work nights out and I wasn’t allowed to go. They would also meet up during the day for walks in the park. He would go for dinner and sometimes pay for her dinner too. if I phoned him to meet up with him on his dinner. He would make excuses why I couldn’t meet him and lie about being with her. I feel he treated me very badly over a long period of time around six months. This carried on even when I fell pregnant with his child and up until a few weeks before we got married. I asked him if he loved her and he said he did. He also said he has had the opportunity to do things with her but hasn’t done. Finally I had enough and gave him an ultimatum her or me. he chose me. Despite this I have never forgiven him for his behaviour and I have told him this. At a time when I needed him he wasn’t there and I walked down the Isle on my wedding day not knowing if he truly loved me.

From my point of view he has behaved far worse than me. I am getting fed up of the constant accusations of cheating. I wouldn’t mind but the accusation are often baseless and illogical.
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