Ppp Please bear with me. My husband and i are seperating. I think he was having …

[ad_1]
Ppp
Please bear with me. My husband and i are seperating. I think he was having an affair,although that’s the least of my worries. I confronted him and he said he wanted to seperate. For years I’ve been telling him our marriage of 8 years is not normal. From the minute i got pregnant it started. He bought all the shopping and did all the cooking. At first i thought it was nice. He convinced me to leave my job saying i don’t need to work. He started going out without me. At first i thought it will change after i have the baby. He went on 3-4 lads holidays a year. He would buy me shopping but never leave me cash to take our baby out. He would never go out with us and going out was either to his parents or shop. He always said i should ask for money,when i did he would make a scene.
I was with our son all week,24/7. He didn’t want him bottle fed,so all feeds were down to me. If i woke him up exhausted,he would say he has big lorries to drive and can’t be tired and go back to sleep. My family are in a different country so i had no support. I wanted to work so that i had money to do things with my son and also not have to ask him as he would never give me any. I was made to feel like a bad parent by him and his mum. My son also needed to go to nursery as he had no interaction with other children and i wanted to give him that. He went to nursery a few days a week for half a day. Eventually i was allowed to work in care part time. His mum paid for some of the nursery fees which helped. I later moved to more hours in care,by the time he was 3. We had to move house and i saw a full time job in the area,i applied. The salary was good and the house we were moving in was twice as expensive as the previous. I was made to feel bad to the point that i cried myself to sleep the day before the interview. I didn’t think i would get the job,but i got it. Was threatened with divorce. My son was 5 at this point and going to school in a few months. I took the job because i knew i was being controlled,worked myself up to a good position. My husband did school drop offs and pick ups and slowly took over my roll in our sons life and turned him against me. Undermined anything i said. Hid school letters so that i miss events. Disappeared afternoons after school and when i got worried and called,his phone would be off. He would say it’s his battery,but never just text to say where he was. Made me feel like a crazy person. Moved into the spare bedroom. Said i hit him when he snores (i don’t) or that he’s restless. His disappearing to pubs became more frequent with school mums and i was never asked to join. He would tell me our marriage is perfect and that there isn’t problems. That we don’t sleep together because he has issues.
Back to today – he looks like father of the year,is in with school. He takes our son out and when i come home i have to wait hours to see if he is coming home. He does this to isolate me. The quiet is deafening.
He is self employed. He doesn’t really do much,his parents give him money.
He is unwilling to pay maintenance. I couldn’t afford a place on my own and a male colleague offered to split bills. He is a decent person and having him there will make me feel safer. My husband has so far accused me of beating our son,being a bad mother and even called our son and told him i punched him in the stomach. I have recorded him mainly because i hear him calling me a c@nt etc and he denies saying it. I listen to it to ensure i am not imagining it. He found out i am moving in with a colleague,knows where i will live and how much rent is. He told me that my colleague will rape my son and walk around with his c@ck hanging out. I am scared. I wanted to do shared custody,i don’t have money for a solicitor,i need to work to earn a decent living. There was a allegation that my niece was molested by her stepfather and he is saying i am allowing her to be raped and that i should’ve done more,that he will call the authorities and that they will know exactly what i am. I am scared that he will take my son. My son doesn’t want to come and stay with me. I have a police appointment tomorrow but i don’t want him arrested or my son disrupted and scared. What do i do and what can i tell them? Please help me,i am so lost.
Thanks if you read to the end.
[ad_2]

Source