So i have a 3 year old little girl, me and her dad have been on and off for 5 ye…

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So i have a 3 year old little girl, me and her dad have been on and off for 5 years. Off more than on really, and when were off there is no contact what so ever. The longest he has gone without seeing his daughter is about 9 months. If i dont contact him he will not reach out to me to see her infact he disappears off the face of the earth as if she doesnt exist. This destroys me due to when he is around hes amazing so my daughter naturally loves him to pieces and really pines for him when he goes. The last time we was together was last year, we never last longer than a couple of months, and the last time we split it was very sour.. I’m now pregnant with someone else.. i havent seen or spoken to him since September last year. My daughters family reached out to me to have contact at first reluctant i finally agreed gradual contact. It angers me that he gets to see our child without any responsibility or efforts to see her. Shes been twice in the last week for the first time since she last saw her dad and his family have done all the running around picking her up as i have said to keep it civil i do not want to see him. To cut a long story short my daughter was ecstatic that she had seen her dad which i new she would be as she constantly asked for him.. so i said to the family about making it regular so she has stability and to ask her dad for a set day and times this was on the weekend and to pass my number over to make futher arrangements so it wasnt left on there head as they all have there own families too. They told me hes said he doesnt want to have contact with me and for them to sort it. I have messaged again today and the response i got was he wants her on Saturdays but to arrange the times based on his family picking her up and they have said late afternoon but it cant be this weekend as HE going to pick up a new car………….
im absolutely furious to say the damn least!!!!!
he has not seen her for so long and still prioritises a car over her? .. im guessing hes expecting her over night if there picking her up late afternoon?
Im due my baby next week and have moved out of area so i will be travelling to my moms house to wait on them to pick her up while he sits on his arse and takes no responsibility once again! Now lets bare in mind this man pays naff all for our daughter, he misses her birthdays due to one excuse to the next.. he doesnt have any real responsibility or commitments, she is his only child, he hasnt seen her for 9 months other than the weekend just gone and has made no efforts to see her. Her birthday is soon and no doubt he wont bother.. i want to scream from the roof tops but i cant and i want to tell his family to go and F themselves as its not acceptable!! But the alternative is my daughter misses out on them and once again is left feeling abandoned and me making excuses as to why she cant just go and see him😓
(I dont have any contact details to even contact him directly!!)

Sorry for the long post i just dont know what to do!!!

Whats the best thing to do?
His family can be just as crappy as he is, they only reached out to me after not seeing her for 7 months. They always take his side. I just feel so upset that she loves him so much more than he deserves, i know its had an emotional impact on her with not seeing him. And now im having to deal with no set arrangements.
But what do i do?
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