Pp please My best friends little boy was sexually abused by his dad few years a…
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My best friends little boy was sexually abused by his dad few years ago. He is now 7.
My children (girl 5, son 6 1/2) go for sleepovers every now and again but recently both my children have both separately shown slight sexualised behaviour. I had to stop bathing them together as they kept trying to touch each other inappropriately even when I told them to stop. And my son often tries to get my daughter to sit on top of him with clothes on.
My auntie looked after my 2 over the weekend and I’ve just been told now as she was unsure how to tell me that my 5 year old girl was touching my 10 year old cousin inappropriately and in a way an adult would do it, not a child. This was in public as well.
Am I jumping to conclusions in thinking it is something my friends child has done or shown to my children or could something be going on at school??
I’m devastated about this all as already have so many other issues to deal with at the moment.
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Can you reply to my post.
I haven’t tried talking to them this time round but I have tried talking to them about the underpants rule etc in the past but they don’t seem to take it in. My son has ODD and possible ADHD too so trying to sit him down and talk to him is near on impossible. I’m going to get a family member to try have a talk with them separately about everything
Please could you post a private reply to the lady’s post about her children showing sexualized behaviour after staying at her friends house after her son was sexually abused?
I was sexually abused at a young age for a long time and when I was finally taken away from the people that abused me I showed some very strange behaviour for a long time, I introduced a few other children my age – when I was between 6 and 11- into some very sexual things. I cannot say I was a good influence at all. Maybe this little boy is doing the same thing, he probably thinks it’s right and that he should share his experiences. I know that as a young girl my outlook on it was that I actually wanted to ‘re live what had happened as it was the only time anyone had paid me complete attention and affection. This may not be the case for this young lad but I would definitely suggest other children to be supervised when around him but in a subtle way so he doesn’t question himself too much, it won’t be easy for this boy to understand what’s going on in his own mind. I’m sorry this is happening and I am very sorry for this little boy to have gone through such a traumatic and life altering thing, it’s the hardest thing to overcome. I just suggest you speak to your friend and then she should get some help for her son if he isn’t already seeing someone already. He needs to understand that it isn’t right what happened to him and it’s not right to teach other children. I hope this helps xxxx
Speak to the then one on one, just explain things. On YouTube there is a brilliant clip called umderbthe pant rule. Watch it yourself first and then watch it with them both separately. They may open up and say well so and so does this or that. Get things out of them with directly asking them. Maybe this will help
Try showing your kids this video my son was shown it at school. Plus assuming it was the little boy who taught them or whatever is extremely harsh. That poor little boy must be traumatised by what happened to him. Talk to your kids first before anything. Kids nowadays can pick stuff up from everywhere unfortunately.
https://www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/keeping-children-safe/underwear-rule/
I would talk to your children first and get them to talk without putting words in their mouth (not deliberately) but some children will say what adults want them to hear also you’ve told them its wrong it would only be natural that if they can place blame (on this other child) they probably will so not to get into trouble. Also its very natural for children to show behaviour like this at this age. Maybe have a word with the parent of this boy to see if he has shown any behaviour at home ect,
Find a professional who specials in this type of abuse and have them evaluate your children. Rather then question them your self. You need to be the safety neutral zone. A professional can do and evaluation and determine what your next appropriate step should be.
It could be your friends little boy has taught them this if he doesn’t realise it’s wrong. He should have some counselling anyway if he hasn’t had it already.
Have you asked your children why they are touching others inappropriately?
did your son watch youtube videos lately? because there’s some very strange and inappropriate videos which never suitable for kids to watch which i can’t let my children to watch on youtube anymore because its not safe anymore!
personally if ur worried I would take them to the doctor’s to be checked, better to be safe than sorry! fingers crossed its nothing! x
Shamefully it is a possibility if the child wasn’t taught it was wrong with what happened and will do it to others but it would be in a innocent way to the child as they don’t know any better I would sit and talk with his mother and stop your kids from doing it explain they mustn’t do it or possibly speak to social services who could tell you how to approach this situation x
Think better to try and talk to your children first to find out before approaching the other mother incase it’s nothing to do with them bringing more worry to them xx
I’d prob question them about why they’re doing it and who told them/taught them it and then go from there. Just reassure they won’t be in trouble for saying anything. That way you’d know if it’s a possible police matter
Could have absolutely nothing to do with this child you need to talk to your children and see why they are doing this x
No advice but my I feel for you I wouldn’t no what to do 😩
Ask them where they learnt this… Then take it from there…